It’s Just Chai wants to empower you to make your relationship experience successful, safe and secure. We want you to find the relationship that captures all of your qualities as well as discover the qualities of your potential partner.
As with anyone you meet – online or offline, you should always use your judgment and feelings to protect yourself and navigate the relationship.
1. Use You Best Judgment and feelings
It’s Just Chai screens out dishonest applicants but assessing a potential matches honesty, credibility and trustworthiness is ultimately your responsibility. If your judgment and feelings tell you something is “not right,” you are to end your communication moving forward or leave the date without feeling the need to explain everything. REMEMBER: You are in control of your relationship process from beginning to end and it your choice to move forward or not.
Common “red flags” to watch out for are:
Your potential partner is requesting money.
Your potential partner is asking questions which are inappropriate or making you feel uncomfortable.
Is asking or forcing you to move out of your physical, emotional, mental, spiritual or personal comfort zone.
Your potential partner’s stories lack consistency or sound unrealistic to you.
Your potential partner does not answer your questions in an appropriate manner or “dodges questions.”
2. Share Your Personal Information Cautiously
Personal e-mail, phone numbers, address and other relevant personal information should be shared cautiously regardless of how connected you feel to a potential partner. REMEMBER: Once you pass your information out to a potential partner, you cannot take it back. Keep this in mind when sharing relevant personal information because if you decide to end communication in the future, you will need to ensure that the other party does not pursue an unwanted relationship. Begin by calling each other with prepaid disposable cellular phone that is not linked to your personal identity or ask your phone company if they offer features to protect your privacy.
3. Do Your Own Due Diligence
It is important to note that It’s Just Chai does not perform background checks on its members.
We respect our members and believe they are providing honest information when registering with us. We rely upon all
information as the truth; date of birth, marital status, city and state of residence, occupation, educational background and all other additional items. Regardless of how strong you believe your connection is to your potential partner, you
encourage you to do your down research/due diligence before taking further action of sharing personal information or meeting in person.
4. Do’s and Don’ts of Your First Meeting
So you have made it to the point of your first meeting with your potential partner. This is an exciting time and most of all
you just want to explore your potential relationship with your date and have fun. Regardless of your excitement and high
hopes, do not forget to exercise caution.
Do:
• Wisely choose the date, time and location of your meeting(s). Whenever possible, choose a public place at a decent
hour during which many people will be in the area. We recommend lunch meetings as a suitable time.
• Wisely choose your food and beverages. We recommend abstaining from alcohol consumption entirely on your
meeting(s) but if you do decide to consume alcohol, limit your consumption.
• Use your own means of transportation. Whenever possible, drive yourself, take a taxi or have someone you know
and trust, drop you off and pick you up at a previously arranged time.
• Tell at least one friend or family member about your plans, and arrange to “check-in” with them after each of your
first few dates or until you feel comfortable enough with your potential partner.
• Carry a fully charged cell phone with easily accessible emergency numbers and if you feel you require more means
of support, carry appropriate self-defense items.
Don’t:
• Leave beverages, food, or personal belongings unattended such as; wallets, purses, articles of clothing that may be
holding personal information about you such as credit cards, driver’s license, ATM receipts, etc.
• Do not meet at your home, place of work or a private, secluded location at an unreasonable hour and away from the public
• Go home with someone, even if you believe he/she is the greatest person you have ever met.
5. Get to Know Your Potential Partner
Take your time getting to know your potential partner. Online communication is a fantastic way to meet people, however, itcan also lead to a fast sense of comfort, familiarity and intimacy.Although It’s Just Chai provides you with highly compatible matches, compatibility alone is not enough to ensure yoursafety and eliminate the need for real-life experiences. It is essential to share experiences together – and to have a broad baseof them in order to avoid any unpleasant or unacceptable experiences later.
6. Report Concerns About a Match to It’s Just Chai
We take every member concern very seriously. We work hard to screen out those who are deceitful on our site and you should not hesitate to contact us if you feelinappropriate steps have been taken by another member against you or in general on the site. We work hard to ensure asuccessful, safe and secure experience for our members and provide the best place for Indian couples to start a relationship.E-mail your concerns to: matchconcerns@itsjustchai.com
It’s Just Chai hopes these guidelines will help make your experience with us a success. |